Recently very upsetting news reached my ears. Asian American kids in the U.S. are the most bullied out of all the races.
The research, to be released on Saturday, found that 54 percent of Asian American teenagers said they were bullied in the classroom, sharply above the 31.3 percent of whites who reported being picked on.
The figure was 38.4 percent for African Americans and 34.3 percent for Hispanics, a government researcher involved in the data analysis told AFP. He requested anonymity because the data has not been made public.
The disparity was even more striking for cyber-bullying.
Some 62 percent of Asian Americans reported online harassment once or twice a month, compared with 18.1 percent of whites. The researcher said more study was needed on why the problem is so severe among Asian Americans. (Full Article)
But, I’m not surprised. Many immigrant parents come to the states, and spend way too much time focusing on money. The father is busy running the restaurant, or working in software. The tiger mom is strict and forcing their kids to get perfect grades, learn piano or violin, and get scholarships. These kids are so stressed out, all they can do is put their heads down and study hard. Their social skills suffer, and they have trouble assimilating since the values their parents teach them are incompatible with American society. They feel alone and embarrassed since they feel no support from the home, and they just can’t seem to fit in at school. Seeing these tame and nervous Asian kids, the American kids pick at them like vultures. To them, the Asian kids are like dead meat; they won’t fight back. This is exactly what I felt growing up, and it’s probably more prominent now since there are many more Asian immigrants these days.
This shit has got to stop.
Ok, firstly, if you are an Asian parent, you have to support your kid whether they are bullied or not. Tell them it’s not their fault, and go to the school administration and raise awareness. Don’t fuckin’ turn a blind eye. Do some research, and see if any of this is caused by your lack of understanding. Many parents just assume that the kids will assimilate fine, but it’s really hard to juggle the culture at home and the one at school. It’s important that your kids can always come to you when they have problems. Oftentimes, Asian parents get so strict that the kids start fearing them, and no longer can go to them for counseling when problems arise. Kids who can’t open up to their parents often become self-absorbed and anxious. Again, I speak from experience. If they can feel loved and supported, they will know that even if things don’t go well at school, they will still feel confident and comforted.
If you are an Asian American kid, you have lots to think about. First, know that it’s rough being an AA kid in the US. Your parents are so busy working that they don’t realize what you are going through. If you have any sort of issues, try to tell them. Once they know, they will probably support you. Let’s face it. Asian parents are so oblivious at times. They have just as much trouble assimilating to this white world as you do. But, that’s they key point; both you and your parents are probably going through the same stuff. Your dad probably freaks out too when a 6 foot blonde with transparent blue eyes approaches him. Your mom probably has trouble getting her point across when dealing with pushy and loud Americans, too.
If you can, bring up bullying issues in your Asian American clubs. I know you have one at your school or church or wherever since we had them when we were in school. Do some protests, or spread flyers sayin’ you’re not gonna take that shit. Raise awareness because this is targeted racism. There are LOTS of Asians these days, and if you all work together, you can create some very powerful organizations. That sort of bonding and unity is what is necessary to overcome these sorts of issues. When you are an individual being bullied, you feel ashamed and alone. But, know that there are others going through the exact same thing. 62% of you! There is no excuse for you guys not to be bonding and trying to figure this out together.
Lastly, DON’T TAKE SHIT. Seriously. It’s scary, but fight back. A few bruises may sting in the short term, but you’ll feel great in the long term. When individuals start fighting back, and the frequency increases, then the bullies will get the message and eventually stop. You guys are just as strong and capable. Use any means. Learn to fight, lift weights, use weapons, talk back, whatever. It may sound irresponsible of me to say these things, but so long as whites and blacks think Asians are pushovers, they are going to keep bullying. This is racism, and it is a crime. Asians are the most prominent race on the planet. We are the majority! Have Asian pride. We’re smart, we’re strong, and we have numbers. There’s no reason we should be treated poorly. It’s UNACCEPTABLE. Never feel alone because in fact, you have huge support.
And, lastly, a message to the bullies. Most of you are probably white. There was this incident called the Virginia Tech Massacre. Remember? It wasn’t a pleasant event. If you think that Asians won’t retaliate, think again. If taken to extremes, some people snap, and lots of people get hurt. Asians in the US have access to guns, knives, razors, and cyber tools. Remember that. Asians are resourceful people,and we have access to everything you have, and sometimes more because we often have money. We’ll find where you live, and don’t get mad if your car gets trashed, or your windows get busted, or your parents find hate mail.
It’s just ridiculous that this sort of shit still happens. That’s a big reason we started this site so many years ago. First it was for fun, but then somewhere along the way, we got serious, and we also got mad. Anger can be positive in my opinion, especially if it leads to action. I don’t advocate killing white people, and I hope it doesn’t ever get to that. But I do advocate knocking out a few bloody teeth.