Candace Kita - Actor and women’s safety advocate, Author of “The Hottie Handbook: A Girl’s Guide to Safety." As a safety specialist, Candace has been interviewed by People, Good Morning America, Jay Leno Show, Inside Edition, Los Angeles Times, 48 Hours, the LOGO Network and WHO Australia
I read Candace Kita’s article “Angry Asian Man” on www.asiancemagazine.com and felt compelled to write a response to the many points she made in it. I agree with some of the things that she was saying but highly disagreed with others. At any rate, it’s a good article in that it brings up key topics and subject matter, many of which we often discuss on our site here. She’s a great writer with lots of good insight and of course they are from the perspective of an Asian American woman.
Click “Angry Asian Man” to read her article.
And you can check out my response to her article here. Check it out! Let me know what y’all think!
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Hi Controversial SAM,
I read you response. I thought it was honest and balanced. I want to applaud your courage for writing about a topic so close to your own identity. SAMs and Asian men in general should be open about the challenges they face because of their race and their status as minorities from Emerging Economies (a.k.a. countries that use to be considered 2nd rate to the West prior to the 2008 economic meltdown).
Openness about the challenges they face and the anger they feel is just one more way SAMs can get an edge on Caucasian men. The only time you every hear white men complain about the limitations of their racial identities is in sarcastic terms (i.e. they can’t dance, can’t dress with flair, can’t eat spicy food, can’t play sports as well as Africans, aren’t as sexy as Latinos). Asian men are honest about the obstacles they pain, and this will lead to strength.
Look at the new world economic order. America and even Europe is dependent on loans and investments from China. Asian men (and hopefully women) will lead an big chunk of the future. I think having come of age in a position of social inferiority may potentially make overseas Asian men more compassionate, fair minded and courageous.
Hi Bright Red Fruit,
Thanks for your feedback and encouraging words. I agree on what you said about white men complaining and what they complain about. So true. And yes…China is the big player now – Americans are in debt to them.
What did you think about Candace’s article? agree? annoying?
Very interesting.
Ms. Kita’s article is not special since her opinions go with the stream. For an Asian (American) woman of her generation, this is how she should express herself and this is how she is expected to express herself. She feels absolutely comfortable to express herself that way.
Now, Controversial Sam, in response to Kita’s article, you reacted as an “Angry Asian Man”. Even if you were not angry, this is the kind of reaction expected from any Asian American “going with the stream”.
The catch here is, if you don’t react “angrily” you will be regarded as weak. If you are upset and react angrily, you will still be regarded as weak. This is what the system wants. Anything else will mean swimming upstream.
Ms. Kita did an unfair comparison of Asian men with African women. Any black person knows his/her history better than me but at least I can say that during slavery, both genders were equally enslaved.
With Asians, slavery has taken a much more subtle and sophisticated turn. Ms. Kita expressed herself very peacefully and felt at-home. This is in direct asymmetrical contrast with her male counterparts. This is what the system wants. If this same system has ostracized both genders equally, things would have been totally different. Both Asian men and women would have united and used their intelligence to fight the system. By emotionally manipulating the female population (into sexy love you long time women), all the odds are against the Asian males!
Now, Controversial Sam, your points are good as well as your reasoning. But since the female kind is more susceptible to emotions than reasoning, once a woman has made her choice, there is no point interfering with her final decision.
Just keep connected. Things will change with each passing generation.