I’ve heard this in real life, and I’ve also read it online. Some Asian American females will actually say this! “I don’t want to date Asian men because they remind me of my brother or father.” This is really weird to me because the only women who say this are Asian American women. What gives? I’ve never heard a black girl say that, a hispanic girl, nor any white girls. Doesn’t make any sense, you know? Is it because in some parts of the US there are way less Asians than Blacks and Hispanics? Perhaps if this Asian American female lived in Utah all her life, and the only Asian guys she knew were her brother and father, then it might kind of make sense but it’s still a crazy broad association. But, how can you not know Asians outside of your home these days? Asians are friggin’ everywhere! You go to any city, and you’ll see a Chinatown. You go to every other restaurant and it’s Asian owned. You can pick up a rock on a beach and you’ll find an Asian or two underneath.
When an Asian American girl says this, what they are actually admitting is that they have been whitewashed by America. What they are actually saying is that Asian guys all look alike! (Wow. It’s one thing when a white person says this, but when a fellow Asian says this, it’s a shock. ) They haven’t made enough male friends in the Asian community to see the different personality types. They just see colors: yellow, white, black, brown. They probably watched 90210 growing up with her white girlfriends and actually believe that Dylan and Brandon are what a boyfriend should look like. These AA girls fail to realize that they have no resemblance to Brenda or Kelly.
I’ve heard the theories. They say it may be because they were abused by their fathers, and have associated ‘Asian men’ with negative feelings. But, I don’t think every AA woman that says this could possibly be abused, so that doesn’t make sense to me. Some say it is because they want to marry up. I don’t have the answer, and honestly I don’t care if AA girls date/marry white guys. I just think they should stop saying this stupid phrase because it has nothing to do with anything, and makes them sound silly. Just say ‘I like dating white guys’. That’s all you have to say. Don’t blame your poor brotha.