"Girls, Girls, Girls"
Article Contributed by redelk2535
Since my buddies kicked off this website, I’ve been more observant of SAM culture. This week I had a realization that I’d like to share. On Tuesday a female co-worker and I were joking about marriage. Then she asked me if I only wanted to marry a “nice Asian woman.” Her words. I said “not necessarily” because for me compatibility ranks much higher than race on my list of priorities.Funny thing is, it’s the second time a Caucasian woman has asked me that recently. Two months ago at a friend’s website company party, an Italian American woman asked me exactly the same thing. The last Asian guy she dated had broken things up because he had to marry Korean. I think we all know guys like this, even within our friends.
The realization: some women will assume that all Asian guys think like that. The unfortunate effect of this is that one SAM’s actions could kill my game. Previously I didn’t concern myself with the fact that some women I meet might make the assumption that I date “Asians only.” Now I know that it’s a common assumption, an urban myth about some Asian males.
It’s not a major problem though, the best solution is still to talk to the woman you are interested in and signal that you like her in a clear way. I’d love to take a poll of a 100 Caucasian women and see what they say. Any of you guys know what I’m talking about? – Elk SAM
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Don’t worry, I’m doing my best to let white women know we SAMs actually prefer vanilla.
Is that a pic of Minnie Driver? What’s wrong with you?
Elk was talking with some Italian lady, and Minnie looks…Italian.
mmm..Monica Bellucci
I’m going to get some ice cream.
…Mira Sorvino
another Italian goddess, who happens to speak Chinese.
Eeeeek talk about racism dudes….I certainly don’t prefer just vanilla. In a sense we are all TV children and are conditioned as such…but conditioning can be shed.
If there is an asian women with awareness that caucasian women has in some abundance, I would run to her and get on my knees to ask for her hand…..It is just so few of them that really know the big picture of life in the way I can see. That is why I’m so sypathetic to asian women who go for the caucasian men. I know in that group there are those who do that for the right reasons….
So I end up having to improvise as well. For me, it’s a matter of content, not of skin color or some effort to satisfy my social conditioning. I can see that there are many comming up in the world that are asian and aware…but those girls are so young, I was born too early. I can’t date 18 year olds anymore at my age, but I see that there are many girls at that age that are bad asses….
Perhaps “prefer” was a bad choice of wording. Not that I don’t like Asian women, but I never get to meet any. It’s not like I can choose anyways.
I think this article is partially true. An old female college classmate of mine (who is hispanic) said to me that most Asian guys seem to prefer Asian girls. She herself married a chinese guy (they got divorced) and she is more into Indian guys now.
What can we SAM’s do to change this perception? Start hitting on them “vanilla” chicks as you say.
Yeah, if I knew of an Asian guy I was interested in, I would wonder. Like my doctor. He’s my age, and HOT. I think Korean, but maybe Chinese. I think like American educated, but has a little bit of an accent, so probably is foreign-born. Anyway, he’s hot as hell, but my thoughts run…1. He’s probably married. 2. If he’s not married, he probably has all kinds of women running after him because he’s a doctor. 3. He probably has to/wants to marry a nice Korean girl and he can have his pick because he’s a doctor in America. 4. He’s my doctor, so of course there’s no hope. Doctors can’t date patients. 5. Discussing my GI disease and having him scope up my butt isn’t exactly romantic. 6. He probably thinks I’m an old lady because I’m the same age he is. 7. At least he knows I’m not fat and I have a clean butt. That’s got to count for something.
Indian guys: So many Indian/Pakistani guys are SO HOT but I would never think for a minute that any of them would date outside their ethnicity–they really don’t, at this point–too recently immigrated, give them a few generations.
Mrs Robinson, where are you when I’m looking for a nice white girl. J/K I’ve had the same experience too where white women seem to think I probably only date Asian. What’s up with that? People just assume the same way I just assume most white girls probably prefer white men.
I wondered if you guys have seen this: go to http://www.asianrelations.com/cgi-bin/yabb/YaBB.cgi and look at “Dating advice guys can use” by Rick Lee. I give his dating advice my stamp of approval.
I’ve come up with a very simple rule of thumb: does she or does she not mention her boyfriend within the first minute?
Mrs Robinson, my girlfriend tells me guys need to do the same.
Good topic. As I’ve said before here, I gave up on Asian-American men after getting, um, cunt-blocked (?) by so many in college. I’ve dated mainland Chinese and Eurpean-Chinese guys since.
It does seem, from talking to y’all here, and from some of my friends in the US, that the situation has changed somewhat since I left the US eight years ago. One, I think AM/WF has become less taboo, and AMs have become marginally higher-profile. Two, the PC identity politics of “stick to your own” (which is quite racist, really a “pure bloodline” mentality), has faded since the late 1990s. Three, AMs in their late 20s and early 30s are just a lot more confident than they were back in college, and have jettisoned a lot of their baggage.
Mrs. Robinson, go for the hot doctor. You never know. Actually, South Asian men are sooooo into white women, it’s rather scary. They’re very aggressive too. I’ve a friend who’s a very, um, large blonde, and she dates so many hot Indian men it makes me curse my preference for East Asians.
Mira Sorvino ?????? ?????????, ???????, ???????????????. ?????. But if she can just say “Knee How”, then she deserves no cred.
I think sorvino is good looking. I suspect her chinese skills are project based…………..wo pu min pai.
we all need to have a party in Maui or somthin’
what’s a cock/cunt blocking???
…Alyssa Milano!
Your doctor has to stay professionally strict(lawsuits), unless you make the first move. So next time he’s anally probing you, flirt with him.
Cock/cunt blocking is when someone prevents you from getting laid (usually by saying or doing something stupid).
The doctor has seen your rusty sheriff’s badge? The honeymoon’s over…
Cock/cunt blocking by a guy/girl can also be intentional, like if a competitor gets in the way of your pursuit of a girl, or if a protective friend of hers gets in your way.
A bit off topic, but a very fascinating discussion from Australia is up here: http://blogs.theage.com.au/lifestyle/allmenareliars/archives/2006/10/_back_in_august.html. More variety of perspective than gets going here (thankfully for here).
The white guys and Asian women alike are mostly slagging on Asian men. The white gals and Asian men are both like, I like/am open to them, just assumed they don’t like us! Interesting.
Let’s reframe this: “Why don’t Asian men date Caucasian women?” Next we need some asian women and white guys to mouth off how white women are fat/lazy/stupid/boozed up/loud/obnoxious. And then we asian guys can come to their defenses and talk about how sexy we really think they are! I can’t help it, I have the white fever bad. Maybe that’s why I may act a little more reserved around them. Slim asian chicks with flat butts just don’t do it for me.
I just read the article on THE AGE. Good read. Maybe it’s because they approve all posts and delete malicious ones, but the comments are very positive & PC. Do you think the Aussies get just as nasty as we Americans?
DE, it’s great you have white fever, you only live once. This is what this site about, living without regrets.
Personally I don’t mind the flat butts on Asian women, they can make it up in other areas. A good personality is the ultimate, the Ace in the hole. Personality lasts until death, long after physical beauty. Don’t get me wrong, physical attraction is always a factor but a nice ass won’t be important twenty years from now.
I see some of us have posted on the auzzie site…We are turning into ranger wasps leaving the hive to do our bidding….LOL