Another great suggestion by Shanghai Meimi…
So, what makes a man??? It reminds me of the article by Contro where he talks about Asian beefcakes in the gym. In America and Canada(?), there is this idea that masculinity equals big muscles, anger and aggression. The American image of a manly dude is athletic and tall. Personality wise, manly traits include being tough, confident, aggressive, vocal, wild, and unpredictable. You see it in many characters in action movies, and TV.
How about in Asia? I know that, from a physical standpoint, Asians are not as body conscious as Americans. For one, they just aren’t as big in stature, and they tend to be a bit leaner. They don’t pump iron, and aren’t infatuated with how their triceps look in the mirror. Recently many men in Asia are dressing super metrosexual. I’m talkin’ make-up and skin care! I’ve heard some Japanese women and men complain that Japanese men are becoming to feminine in style and in the way they act. How about Korea and China?
I wonder if masculinity is behavior that you learn, or if it’s something you are innately born with. Do you know about pheromones? It seems that pheromones are these sexual hormones that the body exudes, and it determines if women find you attractive or not. If that is the case, then masculinity is more about genetics than actually behavior! ( I think it’s a bit of both, personally.) But, thinking about behavior, do you feel like your dad was a good model of masculinity? Did he teach you how to act like a man, and be charming around the ladies?
But, like two sides of a coin, there are masculine traits, and feminine ones. Trying to be too masculine is unnatural, one-dimensional, and it makes for a poorly balanced personality. Women love a sensitive guy. Not NICE, but someone who can empathize with them and understand where they are coming from. Many women also like a good talker, and all of you know that many masculine Asians are stern and few in words. So, it’s a good idea to know what is and isn’t masculine, but don’t pigeon-hole yourselves.
One thing to note is that all masculine traits are not attractive. Things like anger, aggression, stubborness are considered manly traits, along with B.O. and excessive butt and back hair. Most guys who are considered cool and hip show both masculine and feminine traits. These guys aren’t afraid to show their sensitivity, and have confidence in themselves.
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