"Now these are some excellent questions"
Here’s the deal. I immigrated to the U.S. around grade school. I didn’t speak a word of English except “Sluts”, “Bitches”, and “Hos” and it was grossly broken. But ever since then and to this very day, I get asked stupid ignorant questions by White people. And they are totally 100% serious. Now, I’m not saying these people are racist, per se, but I do think they may be a little ignorant. Stupid is stupid does.
The one that really annoys me is “How come your English is so good?”
The one that I’ve been hearing since the day I got off the boat is “Do you know Karate?”
The one that I used to get all the time from stupid white kids in grade school is “Hey, what’s my name in Chinese?” I would reply, “Uhh…it’s John, John.”
The one I detest – “How come your Orientals’ eyes are slanted?” I would just reply, “I don’t know round eyes!“
I get this all the time from White folks, “Hey, you’re pretty tall for an Asian.”
I love this one, “Hey, do you know of any good Chinese restaurants around here?” (Uhh, do I look like a motherfucking Chinese food delivery man or something?…Schezuwan Mandarin Palace is on 48th and 3rd.)
And then sometimes, they just don’t get it – “Hey, so, uhh…are you Chinese or Japanese?” I would reply, “I’m Korean.” But then they would ask again, “So…does that mean you’re Chinese or Japanese?” Then I’d just reply, “I’m Germaican biyatch!”
Going back to the slanted eyes, this one actually cracks me up – “Hey, can you see when you smile?” (Ha, when I smile, I actually can’t see jack shit!)
And my favorite of all time – “Do you smell that shit? It smells like garlic up on this motherfucker!” (Hehe, yeah, it’s me!)
What do you mean can we see when we smile? Of course we can…it’s just more like widescreen that’s all.
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Dude, I guess you got all that cuz you lived in a predominantly upper class white neighborhood. I rarely got that growing up. My dad joined the military, and on the military bases, there are so many ethnicities so people were really cool. I had white friends, black friends, Asian friends, and Samoan friends. However, I never had a girl friend… I was such a SAM.
Yeah, I get some of this shit even today dog. Just a couple though. But it never bothered me. I always thought it was funny. I’m not an angry Asian.
No wonder you’re so knowledgeable about the local Chinese restaurants! It all makes sense now!
Spot On. Maybe carry around some restuarant menus on you and whenever they ask, just pull one out give it to them, then walk away
OOps I pushed the submit button waaay before I was ready.
Sorry SAM Can you Delete the Previous post?
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How about some rebuttle words,
“How come your English is so good?”
“I donno how come yours is so bad?” or better yet,”I donno how come yours is so good?”
“Do you know Karate?”
“No but I know Attamadattonsnagnawt.” They’ll go “what?”
And you go “It’s from Twangansnottadamatta” and change the subject.
“Hey, what’s my name in Chinese?”
I’m J so I think some of you c’s gotta take this one and twist it.But I get it all the time.
“How come your Orientals’ eyes are slanted?”
“cause I’m looking at you!”–That usually gets their attention.
“Hey, you’re pretty tall for an Asian.”
“It’s same as you. That’s what all that hormones and shit in the meat milk does.”
“Hey, do you know of any good Chinese restaurants around here?”
I’m not sure if that’s a stupid question. The answer is worth it’s weight in gold.
“Hey, so, uhh…are you Chinese or Japanese?”
“No I’m from Twangasnottadamatta.” —-Took a while to memorize that one.
“So…does that mean you’re Chinese or Japanese?”
“No man! that means I’m twangasnottadamattan. You know…twangasnottadamatta ”
“Hey, can you see when you smile?”
“NO.”
“Do you smell that shit? It smells like garlic up on this motherfucker!”
“Where?” —Sniff him.
Haha, you Asians get no respect by white society. You know why? Cuz you guys are so passive. Nothing angers you guys, ever. Amazing. And yet you sit there and complain, complain, and complain. Why don’t you get off your ass and just be more proactive? Oh that’s right! You guys are too busy fumbling around with your neat little cell phones, Blackberry, and whatever else you guys like.
I hate to admit it, but in rural America…there’s only Chinese and Japanese. It’s just pure ignorance.
Finally some gum!!
what’s up with the blackberry? Pinklady.
Truth is truth…but Blackberries????
I threw my cell phone in the Bay right about under the golden gate brigde about two month after I dropped out of the corporate rat race. I was salmon fishing on my friends boat and the darn thing kept ringing while I had a good bite.
You know when you have kicked enough asses and the only ones that can fight back are either gorrillas or someone that doesn’t in anyway insult you, you start brushing shit off as cawardice garbage. I don’t have time for most insults thrown at me in this country.
Most non racist whites have no clue how much feces is flying around. Most of it happens behind your back folks.
I live in Oregon and it’s probably good once a week if you happen to live your life with chin at level. (I probably look it too)
If the respect is based on how loud you are, then I have no use for it. You can keep it. I have plenty of white friends who gives me a share of their life not thier pocket change. I’m satisfied with that. Many white people in America does not even know what that means. That is truley shameful.
Euroupean countries who supplied the original stock here has systems of maintaining that openness among community and respect it takes to be mature human beings. Milk got weened too early? I donno. That’s your problem (just kidding)
Do you see yourself as an aware individual? Does your mesuring stick have both inches and centimeters?
Anyway, what’s up with the blackberries????
Dear Pink lady,
My screen name is mangohare on here. If you see anything that resembles complaint in my posts, it would be towards asians. Don’t bunch me up with whiners. That is the root of the problem with generalizing tendencies.(I don’t see much whining on this site as I do in sites like Craigs list thought)
Isn’t your first post a complaint?
Pinklady is a bitter, lonely woman. Don’t heed much attention to her, Mangohare.
PinkLady might be a representative of some white people in the U.S. who are either racist or ignorant or both. Either way, she has no respect towards Asian men. She patronizes us and attempts to make us feel bad for being Asian. I’m just glad we as Asian men are taking a stand and speaking out against her. This just doesn’t happen often enough in the real world.
I agree with cont SAM completely except for the part about pink lady herself. I think you are right REF…about her.
In reality, I don’t think she could care less about race.
Her words have a different shade of hate.
Hate comming deep from some kind of victomization that really got her good. On CL there are few trolls that attacks anyone and anything that moves. She’s one of them. They’ll use anything that hurts. Oh boy those trolls have got it down.
To Pink Lady,
As much as we will never admit it, this is a place full of ex-victims of ignorance. (hopefully not current) I think if you just pretend your first few posts never happened and start posting straight sincere thoghts of interaction, I would accept your presence here as human.
Asian Americans as a whole is very relaxed and cool people. I think AA is the most tolorant group found anywhere.
Wouldn’t you guys agree?
I agree Mangohare, we are very relaxed, laid back, down to earth, and more tolerant of others as we are the wiser of the bunch. I wanted to add one more to the stupid questions. When I was in the Army based down south, whenever I walked off post in civies, not uniform, I would get approached, and they would say, “boy, you speak English”? I would respond back with a Southern hick accent, ” only when I’m spoken to boy”….
As far as the pink lady goes,pay no mind her to, she might even be an Asian girl. Unfortunately her lack of maturity has the best of her now, since the only form of attention seeking is in the negative manner. So do us a favor, if you are Asian, stick to the white boys since you feel so superiorly Americanized over the rest of us. By the way, I am an ABC.
Like I’ve said before “Ignorance is bliss”, pinklady is proof that if you live in your own little world, you can’t fathom putting yourself in someone elses shoes.
As for standing up for yourself, mangohare’s got a point you want to be loud, ignorant and pathetic go ahead — Asians will take the high road and be mature.
We’ll leave all the pre-school fights to other races who haven’t grown up yet. Make no mistake, if anyone steps over the line and threatens either me, family or anyone I care about — I will take deal with that person, and they will know what rage is. The difference for me personally I control myself, so if I want someone hurt they will be scarred for life, in more ways then one.
BUT in the same respect I’m not going to do that to every tom, dick and harry who calls me names or childish shit like that. I’ll let the gangbangers and football jocks, take themselves out — Id rather be sitting pretty thinking how I’m gonna be spending my huge paycheque from my comfy job. Which I got while everyone was smoking up and getting plastered reliving high school— Thats Pathetic.
I’ve had white people ask me “Do you know how to do the fan dance?”
Q: “What’s my name in Chinese?”
A: ??
Try being white in Asia. I get the “Your Chinese is so good!” about ten times a day. “You’re too short to be American. You must be Russian.” Etc. It’s everywhere. But no less annoying. “You’re from Shanghai?! Can you speak Japanese?” Ugh.
I disagree with you guys about Pinklady. I like that she speaks her mind and is not concerned about being PC in this environment. Pinklady, I hope you keep posting and if you’re cute, I would definitely hook up with you.
It is just ignorance.
Here are some of my experiences living as a white chick in Japan for 10 years. I’ll give you a synopsis in English.
“Wow, you’re really good at using chopsticks!”
If I utter one word in Japanese such as “arigatou” some will compliment me on how great my Japanese is…unless of course you marry a Japanese then you are asked why you are not fluent.
Comments on the size of breasts, in Japanese right in front of me.
Several different occasions of total strangers (females) coming up and fondling my breasts and blonde hair saying they just wanted to know what it felt like
Walking into a store at 125lbs 5’7″ and being told they don’t sell “big” clothes there or immediately being directed to the corner for the “big” clothes
Having people comment in front of me on my body parts (in an hot spring with other women)
Japanese women are the queens of miniskirts, but if I wore one I was asked “how much?” by older men on the street
People shouting ” I can’t understand you” in Japanese, when I am speaking simple Japanese
Drunk men on trains shouting in English “how do you like Japanese man?”
Living in a country with no dryers and not being able to hang my undies outside for fear of them being stolen
Attending a JHS reunion with my husband and having men ask in Japanese right in front of me what sex with a white woman was like
Having a Japanese doctor to converse with me completely in Japanese but keep referring to my 8 lb new born as “the giant baby” in English
Following the custom of taking my shoes off when attending a home party only to have a woman 5 years my junior walk into the party and spend 20-30 minutes going on about how unbelievable it was that my shoes were so large (size 9US) and pick them up and show them to each guest
Shock that I could have a Japanese driver’s license and remember to drive on the left
Lastly , the complete shock/ amazement that I would be able to cook anything myself especially an Asian style bento although I am a grown adult
I could go on and on but I think you see my point that there is plenty of ignorance out there
The ignorance that you are getting seems to be from Japanese guys who want sex …
and Japanese girls who want to see you break down in your relationship.
Changing the ethnicity doesn’t make a difference – there will always be people after sex … and women who want to mess up others’ relationships.
@Sunny, size 9? wow, those are quite big, for Asian standards. That’s huge! But you know what? I’m Asian guy and I love big womens feet.
@Sunny,
So you make some interesting points and some made me laugh. sorry
So you sound attractive – slim, blond, all american type? And I think maybe some in Japan are curious, think you’re pretty, and see you as unique and a novelty. Now, the groping thing in trains – that’s awful. It’s nasty and creepy. You having big feet? Yeah, most white american women have bigger feet than typical Asian. so what. Paris Hilton wears size 12′s! I don’t think they’re racist or being discriminatory, I just think they’re fascinated by a white attractive woman in a foreign land, married to a J man – something they don’t see much often. they’re just not used to seeing that. It’s a cultural adjustment for you to live in Japan, due to you being married to J man, and it’s funny at the same time. When I first came to the U.S. from Korea, I made many many experiences with this type of ignorance – too many to recite but yeah, some were hurtful, some were just hella funny, and others were just total ignorance. I take it in stride. I know most are not ill-will and evil or trying to purposely hurt me. Just ignorance.
One thing about Asians in general…they are more direct about weight and body parts than Americans. they will say to you, “You’re fat! you need to lose weight!” and stuff like that and it’s not really considered rude.
Sunny? GIRL that is some gourmet racism. The kind that leaves a bad taste in your mouth for days.
But I would trade racism with you in a heartbeat.
Me, I walk into my favorite spot which happens to be heavily Asian. A friend of a friend asks me about my name and I state it’s Native American and this heifer asks me if I eat people. LIKE CANNIBALISM? It was all I could do to politely say: Hell no but I got a knife, you want a scalp massage? It was a joke but she looked terrified and started crying. Actually crying!!!
Then you get the people who are trying so hard not to be racist but have no idea what they’re doing. I go to the same shop to get my asian-esque groceries and when the dude at the register (who I’ve talked with many times) actually reads my name on my credit card he hollers out SQUAW. I smile and ignore him, but he continues. Now most people don’t know this but squaw is an original Iroquois word that means, and i quote, VAGINA. So when you call an Iroquois a squaw you are truly calling her a cunt. Did I mention I am an Iroquois?
He calls me this every time he sees me now. And not just him, his wife has started to do so as well.
Someone asking me: how is sex with a Native woman, would be a million times better than them thinking I’m gonna go all “Last of the Mohicans” and start gnawing on their leg. Or worse, thinking I’ve got a bow-and-arrow hidden in my car and I’m gonna follow them home and reclaim my land.
I mean, I do have one in my car, but it’s solely for hunting.
I swear!
@Lightfoot
You’re dealing with some pretty stupid people there. What is it with the US and their ability to “other-ise” and diminish people?
It’s almost as if people go out of their way to “be racist while demonstrating outward inclusivity” … I’m speaking from the point of view of someone who has had the charming experience of being told that my culture is tightly knit, tradition-bount and stultified and would therefore never be able to understand true love.
I then told the person: “Stop otherising me, and dismissing my experiences as irrelevant”.
Other-ise ME likey!
I will now commence with using it like it was my original thought. Me Gusta!
Sometimes I wonder why we Natives didn’t let the colonialists starve and freeze to death, but alas, that is not our nature. Seriously, true love, because that too can be judged by others. Hey you’ve got bad breath. Hey your culture doesn’t get true love.
Aigoo. Some ignorance goes beyond dumb.
If only we shipped those small pox blankets back to Europe! But then I wouldn’t have my blessed iPhone. . .
Lightfoot Soha Osolage + PRay:
You two are hilarious! Good points/stories.
I went to a BBQ recently and it was pretty much all white folks – blue collar and redneck-ish white people. Bad mistake! I’m Korean.
Anyway, there was this one white dude who kept saying to me “Miyagi!!!” – I look nothing like Miyagi from the awful movie “The Karate Kid”. He also kept saying “Ninja!!!”.
When these type of things happen, it’s just so unnerving and annoying!!!! wow, they actually think it’s funny??? I mean, is it similar to if I yelled “JOHN WAYNE!!!” to a white guy? I don’t get it.
//Shanghai Meimi says: Try being white in Asia.
White in Asia = Get best paid jobs, chase after best looking women, demand local food tailiored to your taste, live in own gated community away from the locals, rarely bother to learn the lingo, call yourself ‘Expats’
Asia in White = Forced to take jobs the locals won’t do, local women are off limits (but Asian women are coveted by white men, while movies/TV show Asian men to be comical/gay/weak), you cook YOUR food for the locals which they then steal and claim to be better at cooking that you (see curry in the UK), you are forced to live in ghettos with your own kind due to ‘Multiculuraism’ (the idea that you should keep your culture/language as whity will send you home when you are not needed), they translate everything into your language so as to hide their passive racism, you are branded an ‘immigrant’.
Those poor white immigrants in Asia……
@JK
Ok, your comments made me laugh. Some are dead on. Wow, well said.
- About Asian men forced to take jobs the locals won’t do – Not really true – It’s mostly Mexicans and migrant workers doing the shit jobs that white or Asians refuse to do
- Totally agree with you on the horrible racist TV shows/movies
- Stealing our food – this reminds me of P.F. Chang – how they ‘steal’ the Asian dishes/cuisines, make it even saltier/sweeter, hike up the prices, spend millions on the decor, and cater to affluent white people who have NO idea what real Asian food is suppose to taste like. Man, I hate PF Chang! And Panda Express
- What is an “Expat”?
- Translate everything into English – Hey, I guess it’s because English is the unofficial universal language (Not Math)
@ControSAM: Hey, love! I’ve been trying to get up w/you for a few days. My mind has been (what seems like) one year ahead of today, so like, I had TOO many thoughts, questions, suggestions running ’round this site. Anywho, I digress.
“Expat” = An ‘ex-patriot’ of the U.S. or whatever country someone is originally from. My best friend moved to Wales two yrs. ago. She currently ref. to herself as an ‘ex-pat.’ She’s even joined an ex-pat group in Wales, w/other women from the states, Canada, France, England, Irelad, and Scotland. It’s more of a ‘general’ term, rather than ‘technical.’ Most ‘ex-pats’ don’t denounce their U.S. citizenship, unless they have to.
@ControSAM: sent you messages in WILLIAM HUNG (thread) and SAM’s INT. BY BLK. WN. (thread)
J-Boogie
@ControSAM: You know you were wrong for that picture, above! I spit my dinner out! That mess is bloody HYSTERICAL, because as a black woman, I’ve collected a few ‘pictures,’ myself. Word?
I watch loads of international tele. I’ve been rather stuck in Korea for a while, so I feel okay to comment on this notion, now,,, observer.
Korea ITSELF (via ‘celeb’ shows) ALWAYS comments on either how TALL or ‘WESTERNIZED’ a celeb is, yet ALWAYS asks said celeb if they are ever recognized in the West, due to ‘our’ inability to tell ‘Asians’ apart. It makes me chuckle a wee bit, ’cause there’s loads of history and truth to that, but it also angers me, because ALL of Western society gets slapped (unfairly) into the RETARD catagory. ;(
*Any thoughts?
@ControSAM: Are you getting hit on more (I bet you are, you bloody gorgeous man!) by the ladies, due to the extensive curiosity/rise in K-popular culture, which really is FUN, by the way! ,,, reminds me of my chidhood, WAY back in the early ’80′s!
It may appear an ignorant question, but I swear it holds major merit. I promise you C.S., Korea and Taiwan are dominating the world’s ‘youth’ oriented fashions, music, movies, SEX SYMBOLS,,,, It’s interesting how France, Germany, and Russia ‘get it,’ whilst America is still putting ‘old’ white actors on the covers of TIME and calling them ‘The Sexiest Man in the World.’
Ahhhhhhhhhhh, WHAT? Whose world? WAKE-UP America, ’cause your days are numbered!
Cheers!
J-Boogie
@JBoogie – Ah, I get it now! Ex-Pat. So I’m an Ex-Pat as well…since I immigrated to the U.S. from Asia
Nice. Thanks for the heads up! Oh, I shall look at your comments you left in other posts/threads. thanks!
So you’re saying on Korean celeb shows, the host or interviewer tends to ask the Korean celebrity if they are ever recognized in the U.S.?
You know, as you know, Korean media/celebrity/music is very popular in Asia as a whole – it’s the “in” thing now – Korean singers/actors are popular in Japan, China, Singapore, etc. They call it the Korean wave I think. They say Korean (korean men) are the hot commodity. But I don’t feel like this is true – at least in the U.S., it doesn’t feel like that – most Americans are still ignorant and don’t even know about Korean pop culture. And it’s mostly due to the lack of Asian male figures in the popular media/hollywood, etc. So maybe korean men are highly desirable in other parts of the globe but not so much in the U.S. What do you think?
So I totally agree with you in your comments where you said U.S. has not caught on to this “wave”. Maybe I should move to Europe or back to Asia
Why can’t they put William Hung on the People’s Sexiest Man Alive? LOL.
@ControSAM
William Hung should be on People’s Ugliest Men Alive as #1. I can’t fucking believe how hollywood/American media too his ugly ass image and turned it into a symbol of what Asian men are. No fucking wonder we Asian American dudes have so many issues here in the US.
Also you are definitely correct about Koreans not being the hot commodity in the USA. Although I’m not a Korean dude, I’m often mistaken for Korean and people say I look a lot like Tae Yang. I’ve never had a chick hit on me IRL and don’t expect that to happen. Ok maybe one recently but she was Asian and not my type. I’ve never had a white chick hit on me maybe that is more accurate. Most people have no idea who Big Bang are and most people ridicule women who get with American dudes of Asian descent or they look at you like “wtf?” And most of my white male friends would laugh their asses off at Big Bang and call some of their members effeminate/gay-ass mofos.
The “Hallyu” wave….<3
I SO wish K-Pop stars were looked at the same way in the US as they are in Asia. Big Bang is one of my favorite groups, so much so that my boyfriend always tells me how much more I'll love him when he works out more and "looks like Taeyang"…haha! (He jokes because they are the same height)
I don't know why these handsome and talented men aren't recognized as well here as in Asia, but there is some hope/progress. There have been a few K-Pop concerts here in the states lately. There was just one in New York in October AND Big Bang just won the Best Worldwide Act award at the MTV Europe music awards(beating the US entry, Britney Spears). Even my son loves K-Pop. I often catch him humming/singing the english parts of Taeyang's music around the house!
I really dislike how some non-Asians would consider K-Pop stars gay/effeminate. It's just another way to emasculate the Asian male. I don't know about anyone else, but I happen to like a man in tight pants with great hair and a super cute smile, even more if he can sing and dance well.
But you know how it is in the US, it will take a lot to change people perception of the Asian man. It's up to those of us who get that Asian men are no different than any other race of men to not let people get away with the stereotyping and assumptions. Everyone is different, and no amount of stereotyping or demeaning will change the fact that everyone from every race can only speak for him/herself and do not represent that race as a whole.
@K Takaki – I wrote you this long bit in response to your last comment here and it’s not showing up! damn!
@Rebekah
So funny, I thought “Big Bang” – you guys were referring to the tv show “The Big Bang Theory”. oops! I’m Korean but I do not keep up with the latest Korean music/pop stars. So TaeYang is the biggest pop star right now? Yeah, it’s a big shame that these Korean stars are not as popular in the U.S. Because if they were, us Asian men’s images would be better – white America would start to view/see us Asian men as being more desirable, sexier, etc. But we have William Hung to thank for for devaluing and degrading the Asian men image in the U.S. Wow, i hate that guy and hate even more the powers that be that put him in the spotlight for all to ridicule. tragic.
Well, the fact that many Korean stars look effeminate or gay is the IT thing now I heard. and i hate it. Because it just makes that much easier for white people to make fun and ridicule. But every time I see Korean TV, I do notice the male stars have way too much make up, look too pretty, and their hair and face is perfect. that’s disturbing to me. Where are the real men? I don’t like it. I’ts a disturbing trend. In fact, I’m going to write about this very topic in my next post. Men to be men. Unless you are Duran Duran
One thing I have found to be very sexy/manly about a lot of Korean pop stars is that even though they can sing the highest falsetto you have ever heard, a lot of them have super deep and sexy speaking voices.
I agree that sometimes the amount of makeup they wear is too much, but most performers do wear makeup, even here in the US. My friend showed me a tv appearance of Taeyang where he was at home and not wearing makeup, still totally handsome! However I see nothing wrong with a little eyeliner on a guy-it must stem from my high school rocker days!
I totally agree about William Hung, whoever decided to make him “famous” was just flat out racist. I don’t think I was dating my bf yet when he came onto the scene and all I could think was NO WAY they allowed this, and that he was like a caricature of Asian men from old movies. It goes to show how messed up American media is towards Asians, to allow this. It would happen to no other race.
….and Big Bang Theory is too funny, but I am not so amused by the Raj character. I really wish they would stop with his “selective mutism” around women, he is too handsome to not be in a relationship on this show.
@Rebekah
I agree about the show “Big Bang Theory” – The Raj character is pathetic – it just reinforces the stereotype that Asian men (white people classifiy Indians as Asian) are timid and a wuss when it comes to women. So pathetic. The exact same scenario exist in the show “2 broke girls” – where that Asian character is timid, shy, and not confident with women. WTF!!! Can we just have Asian male characters on TV and Movies where they actually get the girls, have sex with them, and sexually desirable?
That’s the thing! Those Korean pop stars – they are attractive without any of the makeup. They are already good looking. All that crap is done by the industry, managers, agents, marketing execs, music labels, etc – the powers that be. But it’s NOT necessary! It’s really bad. It detracts and takes away from any sort of talent that they have – all that makeup, hair, etc.
@ControSAM
I think a lot of the reason for all the silly make-up and hair has to do with the fact that many of these “men” in these K-Pop groups are barely 18(which is even WORSE if you are unsure whether they mean Korean age or not!). I know when I was a teenager I took fashion risks I would NEVER dream of now-like purple hair and shredded jeans with fishnets underneath!
What makes it so funny is the production company will put out a video with the guys looking so crazy with multi color, spiky hair and maybe a month later they make another video and have completely different crazy hair. It can go over the top sometimes.
Well, it does boost record sales.
I guess that may be the reason I like Taeyang so much…He has kept the same hair/fashion style for years. He doesn’t go too crazy with the makeup either. When I was single I wouldn’t have said no if someone who looked like that asked me out, even though I am 2 inches taller than him!
He is a little young for me though! lol!
@Rebekah
Yes you are right – all that crap sells! So I guess the fans want that. But for non-fans and casual observers, it’s disturbing. How tall is Taeyang? and how tall are you???
@ControSAM
I know, it can really scare some people off!
The first time my bf saw K-Pop he was NOT interested, and then he heard Rain and Taeyang’s solo album and changed his mind(the man has a soft spot for R&B). It is because of him I found Asian pop and dramas(when I was learning about his culture WAAAY back in the beginning), and now he is into it too.
If internet sources are correct, Taeyang-and my boyfriend-are 5’7″….and I am 5’9″.
Honestly when Asians are treating whites that know their culture and language like its a surprise, that’s supposed to be complimentary. Seriously when I go back and they look at me and my foreign posture but I can speak their language and have their mannerisms when facing them, they say those same things. “Wow, you’re so polite for being born outside.” “You speak very well.” “I don’t agree with your mom, your grammar is beautiful!” It’s positive reinforcement since you aren’t expected to be in touch with their world for being an outsider. It’s much better than the reverse questions like “You can actually see out of those eyes?” “Wow, when I hit a door I hurt my nose. That’s not a problem for you is it?” That’s negative reinforcement.
@sunny
On Japanese guys being horny over a white girl, they’re just horny in general so hearing shit like that is common white or Japanese. The groping and stuff is also because japanese girls are even more sisterly than others. It just never occurs to them that foreigners don’t share a public bath like they would or talk about how their breasts are developing. Read a manga. This is just part of their society. Guys like girls and compare boobs and sex. Because Japanese guys are still kinda dominant the girls go out of their way to improve themselves to get the guy like what would make their breasts bigger. Funny though cuz the culture is changing. The Heisei generation has girls that are raunchy and tough and shy guys that have lots of hair product. lol
As for Raj on the Big bang Theory I think people are looking too much into it. Sure he’s got selective mutism that hurts his chances with girls. Its played for fun though and he hits on lots of girls when he’s drunk/medicated. He’s also the only guy that was able to hit on Summer Glau successfully when both Jewish Howard and Other white guy Lennard both failed miserably. I think he’s also the first one to get laid in the seires and he got laid WITH being mute. The girl thought he was a good listener. lol Plus he might be a stereotypical Asian but so is Howard a Stereotypical Jew and Penny a stereotypical southern belle. They play off lots of Sheldon’s Texan background like the “non-optional warm beverage” and he’s a tall white kid that needs Soft Kitty sung to him when he’s sick. All the non-nerd characters are played for stereotypical dumbass jocks and all the nerd characters are stereotypically social dissidents. Honestly if you wanna look at the bad stuff on that show think about all the anti-North Korean lines they have in there. They also kinda butcher Chinese but its not like we should expect them to know it right. They’re actors after all. Its not like those way fake English speakers in Japanese Anime help our cause. lol I don’t know if any of you know it but the infamous Revy from Black Lagoon scene or how about Asuka trying to speak German?
@SpAM
‘As for Raj on the Big bang Theory I think people are looking too much into it’
Really? He is a weak comical joke of a character, consistent with every other portrayal of Indian males on US shows and Hollywood movies. And his sister just happens to be a karma sutra sex kitten who likes his white buddy? You really can’t see the social engineering that is going on here? Yes the show is about nerds, but at least the other characters are treated like human beings that can communicate, not a shy, timid mute, who the makers of the show believe should not go anywhere near women. The fact that the makers of this show are white and jewish has nothing to do with how certain characters are portrayed at all?
And there are not many whites who know asian culture, mainly it is white men who just want to get together with asian women, they have no other real interest. Yet how many asians speak english and know western culture? Your argument is flawed from the start, living in an Asian country and meeting many so called ‘expats’ here, I can tell you that very few speak the local language, know anything about the local culture, and the ones who make an effort to learn are only doing it to chase asian hole.
And the feminine man and masculine women are not exclusive to Japan, Justin Bieber is not Japanese!
Well like I said he’s the first guy to get laid and the only guy to hit on Summer Glau successfully. I would think Howard was the worst off. He is short and shrimpy, lives with his overbearing mother, has to pay for sex, is still kinda on Penny’s short list, is the only one Sheldon doesn’t consider a friend (losing out to Penny), blow up dolls, and more. Besides all the characters are weak comical joke characters. I think Lennard grabbing Sheldon’s arm to keep his one ring was the manliest thing he ever did. lol Priya is a kama sutra sex kitten but you know that’s also a bad stereotype. If you notice all the girl characters are played up as sex kittens starting with the star – Penny.
btw I said Howard and Lennard, two white characters on the show not the creators. I don’t even know what Chuck Loree is.
I do know that lots of “expats” don’t get into the culture. Then it makes it even more understandable that they compliment outsiders that way because it really is hard to see someone like that actually try to learn the culture and not be an idiot.
I don’t know where youre going with the Justin Bieber thing. lol
HAH.
As an asian female, I’ve sure gotten my fair share of ignorance from some whites- prepare yourselves, people…
Random old white people: ‘Heeey…heellooo…excusse mee….buutt…dooo…yooou…haave…the…tiiime…?’
Me: ‘Sure fucking do, its three forty fucking five you old bitches!’ (…I jest.)
Previous teachers: Christine…..no that’s not your name? Oh sorry….Sarah….
(Christine being the name of the other asian in the class)
‘Your english is really good!’
‘You don’t even sound that asian.’
‘Your eyes are actually kinda big.’
‘Your eyelashes are actually kinda long.’
‘Are you mixed? Your eyes aren’t that small.’
‘Wow you got a big butt for an asian.’
‘I thought asians don’t put on any weight.’
(as well as…) ‘Damn you’re so skinny. Cause you’re asian.’
‘Damn, you’re a skinny bitch! You need some more meat on you! Oh but asians are always really skinny aren’t they.’
‘You look less asian without a fringe.’
‘You look more asian with short hair.’
‘Damn, you’re so tanned! It’s cause you’re asian. Asians are always so tanned.’
‘You can tell he’s stoned cause he’s got those asian eyes…….no offence.’
‘Wow my eyes look so asian in that photo!……no offence.’
And one of my personal favourites….
‘You’re really pretty. Are you mixed?’
I get this funny sensation I’ve kinda gotten used to…- a mixture of wanting to slap them across the face but also just crack up. I usually opt for both in a way. Well more in a verbal sense on the slapping part….mostly.
I’ve started to think of these comments not as insults but opportunities for badass comebacks. Which makes them actually enjoyable to receive. I now have a whole array of comebacks ready- all depending on my current mood and the comment’s level of offence.
Slip up a little on something- I’ll just make a joke about it. Tick me off- I’ll joke but make sure I put you in your place. Cross the line- oh I’ll embarrass the hell outta you.
Join me my fellow asians….and supportive white friends and friends of other races
And I didnt even get started on all the comments relating to me being some kind of hyper-sexual, white man-worshipping, submissive, sexy geisha prostitute or something.
I definitely agree asian guys get it a lot worse though….. it pisses me off the constant pathetic asian male characters you see in movies and TV shows…. then again think of it this way, guys- as a result you asian guys stand out a lot more when you display your confidence and social skills. As there are such low standards of you already- you’ll impress a girl when you show you aren’t actually the sad, shy, socially-stunted nerd that apparently all asian males are. ….and that you don’t actually have a midget penis.
I find a lot of us asians develop an ability to be able to laugh at ourselves which helps in life though
It’s kinda funny in a way… tear into an asian for their race and they might be able to easily ignore it or laugh it off in a joke like they’ve done the millions of times before…
Tear into a white person about something generic and small and they might suddenly go all nuts at you haha, I’ve seen it happen…
All of that being said- I’m not meaning to hate on whites here… I love all the non ignorant/racist-like whites! Or the ones that at least have a sense of social tact and consideration and brains…
Actually, most of my best mates are white and so is my BF. Loove them.
Sarah you have a white boyfriend and most of your best friends are white. That may be due to where you live or personal preference. But I can tell you that your comments would be worth a lot more if your boyfriend were Asian. Let me ask you, have you ever dated an Asian guy? If you have I’ll shut up.
K Takaki,
Yep I have. I live in a really white dominated area.
The asian guy I dated was also the most charming but cocky BF I ever had, and also kind of a dickhead. Which I didn’t even mind that much at the time because I even think more asians need to be a little cocky to stand up for ourselves.
I love my white BF atm, but I’ve definitely been attracted to some asian guys around and I think they can offer a lot of desirable traits like being more likely to be able to laugh at themselves, understand my views on all this BS in the media, have more drive and opinions because of it, be good at dancing and singing sometimes, have a sexy tan, sexier looking hair- they can pull off styling their hair and streaking it without looking gay I reckon- more than white guys etc. And I’ve voiced these opinions to anyone thats implied anything against asian guys and their desirability. Which includes a good asian female friend of mine who used to have a thing where she didn’t date asian guys… funnily enough she’s become really into this 3/4 asian guy atm and I don’t think he will even end up going for her…
Also, that asian ex of mine was the only asian guy who ever asked me out. Actually sometimes I think these more confident asian guys I know intentionally seek out white guys to date or non asian… I definitely don’t seek out white guys or prefer them or anything though. And I actually put down my BF a lot about his race- jokingly of course.
Correction: I think these more confident asian guys I know intentionally seek out white *GIRLS to date or non asian…
lol