I noticed a lot of SAMs tend to leave their sexuality ‘switch’ off until they find somebody they like. Then, when they try to turn it on, there is a malfunction. It’s kind of like sports teams. Lots of lazy former-championship teams think that they can suddenly turn on their abilities when they need it, but usually they can’t. (The Pistons this year were a good example of this.) The teams that win are the ones that play hard every night all season long; they develop a habit of winning, and they use the momentum. Sexuality is similar: if you leave it OFF, then you won’t be able to turn it ON when you need it. I think a lot of SAMs tend to leave their sexuality switches OFF. They are really nice at work, PC all the time, they are polite at restaurants, sit cross-legged at cafes, and they are asexual in front of girls they aren’t interested in. For some reason, I think a lot of Asian guys were taught to leave the switch off, due to maybe feeling embarrassed about sexuality, or being taught to be nice and unexpressive.
You’re a MAN! Start acting like one! Flaunt it, show it, and exercise it: ALL THE TIME! The best time to act like a man is with girls you’re NOT attracted to since you aren’t nervous and you don’t care. Flirt even if you don’t like the girl. Compliment the girl at the register, and make her feel like a woman. Act brash and crass with the waitress. Talk about sex or relationships with your female co-workers. Be aware that you are a MAN, and always make sure you’re acting like one. Remember that you are also a representative of SAMs, so show your best all the time, guys. Even if you are in a relationship with a girl, don’t stop your mojo from flowing when speaking with other women. Sexuality is a like a muscle, and you have to use it to keep it strong.
If you do this, people will take notice, and you will naturally attract more women, even if you aren’t consciously trying. Other guys, including whites and blacks, will respect you more and treat you as an equal. You will improve the SAM image. And, when you finally do meet someone you want to impress, the pheromones will be flowing, your game will be razor sharp, and you won’t choke. Your switch will be on already, and you can just act like you normally do.
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Damn, some more nice pics, see this is what I’m talking about, nobody is going to go to some forum. Thats why this website will pick up viewers, like bombs to hezbollah –lol, just kidding, fuck off. You pics are either sexy, funny or interesting.
Anyways reading the first paragraph I’m like wtf is he talking about… then you wrote about the flirting, I do that already so not to worry. But from someone who already does that I was wondering what you were thinking, were you saying sleep around more with anyone? Hey, it may work for someguys (male sluts), but I’ll stick to flirting it keeps your “A” game sharp.
But I think it definetly takes more than your “A” game to a get a girl you like. Cause no matter what you’re trying to play, you’re still pretending and you’re self conscious. When you see a girl you would like to be with, throw shit to the wind and go for it. You may or may not get it, but sooner or later every dog has his day.
One problem is I think we care too much about the girls we want to be with. You got to remember every woman is like a car, some maybe corolla’s and some ferrari’s. Treat both like cars no matter how good the ferrari looks on the outside, its a car thats made for driving like any other. Granted some are for racing while others cruising. But cars like woman aren’t to be put on pedastools, unless they are yours, then you can treat them better than if they were someone elses. Come on, Come on, I know I’m going to get shit from that analogy, but facts are facts.
Only thing about flirting with girls you have no interest in, keep it to flirting – cause you don’t want to bag it like your lunch, ie brown paper bag. If you don’t get it, I’m not spelling it out for you more, google it or something.
Yeah, it seems to me that typical SAMs don’t tend to flirt. These are the guys who suddenly lose their cool when a girl is in the room. They avoid eye contact. Their heartrate goes up, and they start sweating. But, in a sense, we all have that little typical SAM inside of us. If you can, beat the shit out of him so he never comes back.
I think my point here is that as a Single Asian Male, the most important part of us is the MALE aspect. The Asian aspect, like all of you seem to agree, is something that we want to make a No-Factor. And it will be once us male Asians get our proper respect in this white-washed Western world. But, we can never forget about the MALE part. That is something we must celebrate every time we see a nice piece of ass walk past us, or whenever you talk to a girl’s breasts.
I think a lot of SAMs are repressed sexually. Is it just me, or were you REALLY hesitant to bring girlfriends home to meet your parents? I could not see myself doing this until I graduated from college, and was serious about perhaps marrying. On the flip side, lots of whites bring girls over from middle school, and it’s not considered a big deal. I think that openness is great. So, in that sense, it’s our upbringing that teaches us to hide our feelings instead of showcase. Man, I’m gonna teach my kid to be a stud. But, if I have a daughter, I’m gonna be mean to every little boy that visits my home!
Too many SAMs are shy, comfortable, lazy, and sexless. They are so freakin passive, it makes me sick. I learned late in life that if you really like someone, you got to go after her with all your might. And if she’s that good looking or has a great personality or both, some other knucklehead will get her. SAMs are so sensitive and so nice. Shit makes me puke. Way too passive, way too passive. I mean, if there’s a job you want real bad, wouldn’t you apply quickly? Isn’t time of the essence? Isn’t it a period of urgency? It’s the same with the girl. You think girls just sit around and do nothing and just wait? No, the hot girls don’t do that. Because they don’t have to. Don’t take your time, just do it and do it now!
By the way, I like Blade-Edge’s take on cars and women. Loves it.
holy crap! we are so much alike it’s scary. i also used to compare girls to cars and the ferrari was the top end. [as an aside, i was going to test drive a 1994 348 spyder this past weekend, but someone bought it, so i test drove a 2005 bentley arnage; still hot, but different]
i don’t know about turning it on/off, but i can tell you that i don’t even think about it when i’m not in a social situation. it’s a good point that we should be social, kind, and friendly. this is hard to do though cause our upbringing is kinda stoic. at least we realize the potential side-effects from such an upbringing and we will do it better for our kids, right?
as far as being comfortable w/flirting, get into great shape(white people workout more than asians in general), get some cool threads, haircut, and then just get out there more often. just go out more – be seen! you will have all kinds of opportunities to talk and meet girls. just don’t over do it with expensive crap, cologne, and talk….don’t over-emphasize the superficial stuff.
don’t buy a BMW like 2 of my asian friends did, thinking they’ll meet chicks. stop it with the material crap and start liking yourself for who you are. not what you can buy.
[side note: ignore my last paragraph if you can buy a ferrari.]
I think there are some SAMs that need to work on themselves socially. Shyness can be overcome but it has to start with changing how you THINK and overcoming your fear of engaging with people. And confidence is a huge part of it. Once you learn how to talk to people in general, it makes talking to women you’re interested in a bit easier as well. It’s amazing how a simple, “Hi, how ya doing today?” can spark off a little conversation. It could be with a cashier, a bartender, or someone at the bus stop, etc…
Granted, if you’re an introvert, you won’t be the bon vivant of the party. But! You can and will be able to mingle and not be the wall flower.
You shouldn’t come across to women as cocky or arrogant, that’s not confidence. But you definitely don’t want to come across as the nervous, shy, timid type. Be yourself but carry yourself with a non-chalance, a breezy what-the-hell-attitude. That probably looks a LOT more attractive to women than the sweaty, nervous, timid type, right? And yes, keep flirting with everyone; it’s good practice for when you run into the real deal.
Yes, I have problem showing I am a MAN, especially in public. I don’t like PDA, but I notice Americans love to do PDA! They kiss in crosswalks during rush hour! I am always impressed by their emotion. Whenever a girl looks at me, I usually look away. Eye contact is very hard for me.
soondooboo, i have a similar problem -looking away or hard to smile. but used to smile alot after i got my teeth whitened. anyway, when i’m in korea and pretty much blending in; i have absolutely no problem smiling and looking right back at girls. could it be bc we’re self-conscious that we look different? and we’re not sure what they think? but when we’re among our own race, it’s no problem. i had no problem smiling at hotties and talking to them. although my korean sucks now and i wouldn’t know how to pickup a korean girl. oh well.
as a girl friend told me; practice making eye contact.
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Hey, even I have to get over the urge sometimes to look away when making eye contact for the first time. Its a natural reaction but you got to substitute it to the reaction you want.
But don’t think if you’re shy you can just jump to become super stud. Like fucking everything in life its a process, and everyone is running out of time. If you’re shy about talking to girls, then work on that first. Talk to your cashier or your neighbour, or the girl in the clothing store, just get used to talking to females period, hot or not.
Once you’re over that hurdle, you can strike up a conversation with females of your choice. From there you might know how you will coax asking them out for a date. Its all a process, and harder than the couple of lines I wrote. Think of these lines as subject headings of a chapter, you have to fill in the chapter.
Yeah, it’s hard for me as well, since I am by nature a shy guy. It’s easy if I have a reason to talk to them.
blade is right, you just have to do it over and over until you feel comfortable. then, you will one day meet the girl of your dreams, and you’ll actually be able to LOOK at her!
dudes, go to amazon and check out the book, The Game by neil strauss. it’s about pickup artists and it details everything you want to know about…picking up girls. everything you’re supposed to do and say, including how to respond to anything the girl says is in there. i’m still reading it and it’s a cool story as well.
funny thing is that it looks like a bible.
Dude, what the fuck are you talking about. Keep your sexuality turned on at all times? What are you a Dr. Phil on crack? I don’t need anyone to tell me what I needs to do when it comes to snagging women off their pedestals. Girls aren’t stupid, if they don’t want you they’ll make it clear, so why should I be any different? Why would I flirt with some busted co-worker so I can maintain my mojo at all times? If you want to be a man, be yourself and don’t worry about what white or blacks are thinking of you as equals. Fuck them, be real with yourself and let your mojo work for you not the other way around.
Well, I think articles a great reminder for lots of SAMs to simply act more like guys. A lot of SAMs act too polite, and rarely show their interest for girls. I think that’s the point of the article. If you’re confident like Fight Club seems to be, then maybe this article is not necessary for you, but for some guys, I think it’s smart to work on the skill of flirting, and expressing yourself.
True, we shouldn’t care what blacks/whites think of us. We are already equals, so let’s just act like it.