SAMs are like wolves…they move in packs. Yes, I find this very interesting, because I always liked to do stuff on my own, even though I have lots of friends. Growing up, I’d spend hours doing art or playing the guitar by myself. Even when I started playing sports, I tended to play individual sports like tennis, though I did play soccer. In college, I made some Korean American friends, and they’d ALWAYS ask me to come out, and I’d say no half the time just because they did the same things or they did stuff I wasn’t down with. I don’t mind going to bars to smoke and drink, but if you do it every damn night, forget it. And, we’re not freakin’ Power Rangers who have to be together all the time! These days, I look around, and it’s the same thing; a bunch of my SAM friends going out on the town, usually without any girls! So, it seems like SAMs move in packs like wolves, but unfortunately, they don’t know how to hunt!
Personally, I think hanging out with your homies gets boring sometimes, especially if it’s a group who avoids action! If you’re in a group of guys that goes out looking for girls, then that’s great, since there is confidence in numbers. However, if you’re stuck in a group that has no game, and avoids the game, then you gotta break free, SAM. It’s hard with all that peer pressure, but me a grown ass man, not a follower. Keep your self-interest top priority.
It’s very obvious that Asians identify with the group. But, I think that everyone should spend more time developing individual identity, especially if you want to eventually meet a girl since at that point, it’s gonna be 1 on 1, and you won’t have your buddies to save your ass! More importantly, this is YOUR life, and you don’t have to act like your Asian buddies all the time. It’s no wonder that white people think Asians look alike, considering y’all dress and act alike, not to mention you’re always huddling together with other Asians.
So, branch out, and consider being an individual above being a generic guy in a group. Take off your costume. This ain’t high school no more.